The concept of changing your name is like changing part of yourself some might say.

You have lived with a name for so many years and it belongs to you and you to it. Referring to popular contexts; the idea of star- crossed lovers being at war because of a name and to think of countries in a state of destruction because of the name of their religion is so sad, but reality. Ideological assumptions linked with a name are unavoidable; the word Islam, Catholic, Hitler and Budha, hold with them a certain aura and knowing. The name Coca-Cola being one of the most recognized ‘names’ in the world I believe, connotes notions of inclusivity, standardization and tragedy all at the same time. So on one hand, name calling creates a positive feeling and on the other a complete negativity arises. The idea of names being so poignant begs me to think of the concept of ‘naming’ and its triviality or its baring of resemblance in the world which we live.

A famous writer by the name of William Shakespeare once wrote: “That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet…”

The importance of a name can alter our perceptions, but may not actually change a thing in reality. A rose would smell the same if its name were written differently. But to some, a name is of great importance and can in fact alter views and opinions. Muhammad Ali changed his name for religious purposes and Marilyn Monroe for fame, clearly these two examples represent the severity and belief behind name labeling.

About to be united in marriage, I have a slight fear in losing my name. But, for traditional and commitment purposes I do wish to change it. Part of me longs to keep my perfect, perfect name that roles off my tongue with such ease and is as familiar as my face in the mirror. To hang on to it and to keep my individuality and a piece of my inner core as a Dalais would sooth my nerves just a little. Conversely, to keep it completely would feel like a betrayal to my husband to be and doesn’t sit right in my stomach, and to double barrel is bordering on pretentious, so what to do?

The artificial and meaningless convention of names as portrayed in Shakespeare’s Romeo and Juliet creates a hollow feeling to my rant of names importance, but shows names significance. The study of Etymology is a calling that should be recognized, saying that in fact every name has a reason. When being a writer, I shall keep my name somewhere in the midst, just to stay grounded and realize where I came from, however a name is a mere pin prick in the circle of life and all it throws at you.

"The creations of a great writer are little more than the moods and passions of his own heart, given surnames and Christian names and sent to walk the earth" William Butler Yeats.